Saturday, 22 March 2014

The Best Mothers Day Gift

Bring Your Own Mum Night with NotOnTheHightStreet #BYOM





This is my Mum, and a glass a fizz. Sadly a bit of a rare sight around here, Mum that is, not the booze (ok, no, that sounds bad).

My Mum lives in deepest darkest Devonshire. I (and the clue's in the name here) am in South London. So taking her out for the night on Mothers Day never really happens. It's usually a case of a card in the post and a gift bought on line and sent directly to her. But last week I was lucky enough to be invited to the NotOnTheHighStreet Bring Your Own Mum event. NotOnTheHighStreet is exactly the sort of place where I normally hunt out those online gifts, the slightly unusual or more personal things that, I hope, can show love and a bit of effort, even at a distance. So, I jumped at the chance to go and Mum jumped on a train.

We'd been promised cocktails, nibbles and entertainment, but what was really nice was the first hour or so when (with the cocktails and nibbles), I could just have a really good chat to my Mum. These days our conversations usually happen via Skype with my four year old doing some kind of performance art and the toddler trying to find new and spectacular ways to injure herself. Needless to say not much actual talking happens, so a solid hour of grown up conversation is frankly a gift in itself!


Some of the lovely gifts on display - this bag would look great with my shoes if anyone is interested....
The big news of the night was that NotOnTheHighStreet are about to start selling experiences, but not your standard track day, spa day, air-balloon type experience.  As a taster we were treated to a quick trip through the history of fragrance by Odette Toilette, who passed perfume infused feathers around the room. From a rather over powering 1930's number, through nostalgic scents from from the 1970's,  to Anais Ansais  (a previous mothers day gift from me), and some I remember from my own teenage years - Bodyshop White Musk anyone?

Perfumed feather, and a rather nice cocktail

I was very excited to discover that our entertainment was comedian Shappi Khorsandi, who is always very funny. I could honestly now spend half an hour listing all the stuff that made me laugh but I'll just say she was a Mum talking about being a Mum to a room full of Mums. There is so much comic potential in that and she drew it out wonderfully.

So all in all a great night (apart from falling flat on my face on Oxford Street on the way home!). Great entertainment, lovely food, drink and gifts and the best present of the night - some time for a busy mother and daughter, to just sit and have a good old natter.



My only regret - I was too full for the cupcakes!



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Wednesday, 19 March 2014

Magnets In Your Pants - Update




In case you missed it, a few weeks ago I wrote about some supposedly targeted twitter adverts, that had particularly annoyed me. Apparently, at the grand old age of 34, having had a baby just a few months ago (ok 16 months ago), I should be fending off symptoms of the menopause the "natural" way. What is the natural way to beat the menopause? Well it's obvious really, shove a plastic coated magnet down your under-crackers of course! What could possibly be more natural than that?

One of the people who commented suggested reporting the company to the Advertising Standards Authority (ASA). I didn't initially think it was worth it. I assumed that, although the claims made seemed rather misleading to me, the company would have spent a bunch of money on lawyers to ensure that they were carefully worded to be just within the rules.

But the adverts kept coming.

Even after I wrote a whole blog post taking the p*** out of the product, they were still trying to flog it to me.  So I responded in the most mature and sensible way I could think of. I sent a petty and sarcastic tweet in reply to each advert.

But still they came, daily!

Then, one afternoon I found myself watching a long but rather uninteresting experiment at work. I had four hours in a windowless room with only an internet connection to keep me entertained. So I filled in the online complaints form at the ASA.

How much good this has actually done I don't know but I have now been told by the ASA that other, similar complaints have been made in the past about this company and so their compliance team are taking on the case.

Will this stop the marketing of this kind of junk? No of course not, there is far too much money to be made from using plausible sounding nonsense to flog snake oil.

But you know what?

I've not had any of those ads in my twitter feed for at least a week. So, greater good aside, I count that a win!

SBx

Thursday, 6 March 2014

Do C-Sections Cause Obesity?

So this one was just bound to get me back into rant mode....

Last week I saw a piece in the New York Times blog (and many other news outlets), claiming that a new study shows babies born by caesarean are more likely to be obese as adults. There were the usual comments under it that "we are perfectly designed to give birth naturally*" so no wonder it's bad for the kid for these selfish mums have c-sections, blah blah. But, there were also a number of comments that made me smile. They were the ones that said - This study proves nothing; Corrolation does not equal causation.

It's a phrase I've come across a lot as I continue to dig into the world of pseudoscience that's hurled at us mums. So I thought it was time for a little post about it.

What the headlines would have us believe, is that being born by caesarean causes people to become obese. The paper does indeed show that those born by C-section have a slightly higher BMI, but you don't have to dig very far to find out that there is no proof that one thing is actually causing the other.

I'm going to wander off to another example for a minute, it gives me an excuse for a good graph. One of the main arguments in the early days of the MMR scare, was that Autism rates had increased enormously at the same time that the MMR vaccination was introduced. From this, some people concluded that the vaccine was causing the rise in autism. But MMR and Autism rates weren't the only things happening in the world at the time. For example - there was also a large increase in the sales of organic food:

Graph from Reddit user JasonP55

OMG organic food causes autism!!! No, no it doesn't, and neither do vaccinations, they are just three of the many things that happened to be changing in the world at the same time. There is a corrolation between autism diagnosis rate, MMR vaccination and organic food sales. But none of those things is linked in any way, except for in the conspiracy theories of the anti-vax world.

The other way you can get this correlation v causation issue is if two things are actually linked, but rather than one causing the other, they are both caused by something else entirely. Which brings us back to the C-section study.

Crucially, this study doesn't take into account the weight of the mother. This is a huge flaw** because of two well established facts:

1- Obese women are, for various reasons, more likely to have caesareans.
2- The children of obese mothers are more likely to grow up to be overweight themselves.

So are C-sections causing obesity? Or are the mode of birth and the babies subsequent BMI both just symptoms of the same cause - the mother's weight? The study can not possibly tell.

The author of the paper says: "There are good reasons why caesarean sections may be the best option for many mothers and their babies, and caesarean sections can, on occasion, be life-saving. However, we need to understand the long-term outcomes, in order to provide the best advice to women who are considering caesarean delivery”.

I have a couple of issues with that statement.

Firstly, it seems to assume that many women choose a caesarean for such flimsey reasons that an unproven risk of a small increase to their babies BMI might be enough to put them off. Whatever the likes of the Telegraph would have you believe, most C-sections in the UK are carried out for medical reasons. Either because of an emergency during labour, or because there is reason to believe it's the safest option for mother or baby. I can't imagine many scenarios where the slight increase in BMI is more worrying than the reason for the C section and of course, helping a child to develop healthy eating habits and an active lifestyle will go a long way towards warding off obesity. Regardless of how the child was born.

Secondly, yes, women should have the best possible advice. But this study is far too limited and preliminary to be part of that advice. In fact it shouldn't even really be news. It's an academic paper that suggests the need for further research in a specific field. But because that field is women's bodies and their choices about them, it makes it into almost all the major news outlets. This does nothing to make women better advised. Perhaps, with further work, it will be clear that caesareans really are causing obesity and if/when that happens women should absolutely be made aware of it so that they can consider it along side all the other factors. But at the moment all that this study and the media hype around it offer, is yet another reason for c-section mums to feel guilty and another bit of propaganda for the idea that the only correct birth is a natural birth. That isn't giving good advice for informed decisions. It's just another little way of preventing women from having control over our own bodies.

See - you all knew I'd get back to ranting soon didn't you?!

SB



*No we bloomin' well weren't. We evolved to be the best possible compromise between being able to walk upright and yet have babies with ludicrously massive heads. Weather or not you think a creator was involved in that is up to you, but either way it's compromise not perfection.

**This study was a review which collected and analysed data from other research papers. Another significant weakness is that most of those papers were very old dating from the 1930's to the 1970's. Caesarean birth was far less common in the past, and far riskier. It is therefore reasonable to assume that it was only done where there was a clear and significant risk of death or serious injury to mother and/or baby. This also means it's quite probable that mother and/or baby may have had other health issues and that these could have contributed to the babies increased BMI later in life.